Dr. Newton discovered his clients' ability to remember what goes on between lives while conducting a “regular” past life regression (and if you didn’t know there were such things as “regular” past life regressions, you need to catch up on your reading a bit!). And while it is beyond the scope of this blog post to tell you about all the totally cool stuff that happens between lives, one topic of interest came up over and over: Soulmates!
According to Dr. Newton's research, we spend most of our time between our earthly lives playing and learning with a group of souls that most us call – well, our “Soul Group!” Naturally! Your Soul Group and mine consist of our absolute BFFs at the soul level. We typically incarnate with them in many, though not all, our lives, and they are the souls we feel closest to. We resonate with them to such a degree that when we meet them on Earth, the relationship feels deeply special, although most of us can’t put our finger on why.
Within our Soul Group, there is always one soul whom we identify as our soulmate. Interestingly, unlike many psychics and spiritual researchers, Dr. Newton’s clients do not deny the existence of a soulmate, nor do they try to convince us that we have many soulmates. They all say the same thing – so-and-so is my one and only true soulmate.
Isn't that encouraging news? But before you get too excited, understand that there is a downside: we don't always incarnate with our soulmate, so we can't expect to meet him or her in every single life. But again, before you feel discouraged – there's more!
When we meet the other BFFs from our Soul Group on the Earth plane, we unhesitatingly recognize them in a profound way, with deep feelings of love and intimacy. Commonly, they incarnate as a close loved one, perhaps in the role of parent, sibling, best friend, or spouse.
Soulmate or Soul Friend?
While I don't know about you, I've been in enough rotten relationships to feel sure that any Soul Group BFF would make a wonderful spouse, without worrying too much about the precise definition of soulmate. I had a wonderful marriage to an amazing, understanding, loving, gentle, highly evolved soul with whom I’ve been partnered in other lives – but he was not my soulmate. That doesn't mean we didn't have a fantastic marriage. We just didn’t resonate on a certain level about certain things. I still loved him dearly, and I miss him a great deal now that he has passed on.
Another fascinating tidbit from Journey of Souls to keep in mind: during his long career, Dr. Newton regressed many people who realized under hypnosis that they had already married, and then divorced, their soulmate. Apparently, soulmate relationships are not the blissfully happy, effortless partnerships we all imagine them to be. Like anything else worthwhile, they require work, and they are designed to be learning experiences.
So Now What?
My conclusion? I don't recommend making yourself crazy, frantically searching for this mysterious thing called a soulmate. Stop asking every psychic medium you meet “Where’s my soulmate? When will I meet him? (or her?)” Understand that your true soulmate may not even be on Earth at this time, or they may have incarnated as a parent or a sibling. And in the meantime, while looking for this supposedly perfect partner, you might reject someone with whom you could be very happy who doesn't fit the definition perfectly.
My suggestion? We should focus on evolving spiritually. In fact – and I hate to say this, because I can hear the groans from here – pretty much every question we have about our lives comes down to spiritual evolution. I’ve learned that in my years as a psychic, and trust me, I don’t always like it either! If we made a plan between lives to meet up with our soulmate as a partner, then we absolutely will – and if we did not plan to, then no matter how much we wish for it, it's just not going to happen. The best thing – the only thing – we can do is work on our own spiritual evolution, knowing that we will attract the best possible mate for ourselves by making that effort.
I know that doesn’t sound as exciting as a romance novel – but following the correct course of action always feels better in our heart of hearts than offering resistance to what we know, deep down, is the best thing for us.
Advice from Your Psychic!
My final piece of advice? Daydream about the life you want. Kick back and read that romance novel. Watch a favorite romantic movie. They’ll help you experience the feeling of being in love and thereby assist in drawing it to you – and like a popsicle on a hot summer’s day, they’re just plain yummy when your love life feels dry!